Many Stories Matter: A Cautionary Tale about the “telling of the single story”

The Danger of the Single Story, by Nigerian author Chimamanda Adichie

Today I listened to Nigerian author, Chimamanda Adichie, caution others about the dangers of telling a single story. For Chimamanda Adichie, the danger of telling single story about a place called ‘Africa’ is that the single story becomes the definitive story for all the people of Africa. The danger is that different versions of the single story are told over and over again, so that the single story creates a stereotype of all Africans. This stereotype, whilst not untrue, is also not complete.

Chimamanda Adichie cautions that the single story is given greater power than any other story and by telling only this story, many voices with different stories are silenced. She feels that the single story of Africa comes from Western Literature, which whilst well-meaning, is also patronising and misguiding. What is needed is for Westerners to reject the single story and embrace the concept that many stories matter.

Writer Survival Tips for the 21st Century

It is becoming increasingly apparent that Author Survival in the new age of digital book publishing requires the development of new skill sets. No longer is it enough to have written a fantastic book and to put it in the hands of a publishing company.

Authors must not only be pro-active in all facets of the book, from writing to promotion to sales, they now must build an authority brand that is both visible and credible. Writer survival depends on knowledge, adaptability, flexibility, and a futuristic vision.

Self-Publishers Online Conference 8 – 10 May 2012

The SPOC 2012 conference was developed by Susan Daffron and James Byrd, owners of Logical Expressions, Inc, and is well worth a visit. Knowledge acquired will give you choices, even if you have no intention to self-publish. A few key Author survival tips are summarised as follows:

1) Writers must now be closer to their buyers and look at readers as customers, not just consumers. As such they will need to engage with their consumers via social networking, Review systems, forums, blogs etc.

2) Books are created to entertain, inform and to educate. Know exactly what your readers seek (expectations, habits), where they can be found, what makes financial sense for them, what value/benefits they get from your book, etc.

3) Build your Authority. For example, on writing, publishing, issues. Readers want to know/like/trust you. Realise that there is a non-monetary currency based on reputation. Compile lists of reviews, testimonials, endorsements.

4) Embrace new technologies.

5) Recognise that the digital world has created a ‘Long Tail’ for books.

6) Build your author brand in terms of both visibility and credibility. This will create multiple streams of income via royalties, consulting, speaking, coaching, plus teaching fees.

7) Learn effective book promotion strategies used for web sites, media releases, Amazon, search engine optimisation, virtual tours, email marketing, Facebook Fan Pages etc.

8) Look at multiple platforms but focus on specific ones that will work for you and for your target audience. Things to consider are Tweet Chats, YouTube, podcasts etc.

Women Against the Abuse of Men

In Kiss Kill, my latest young adult novel, the character Mat, triumphs over his abusive relationship with his narcissistic girlfriend, Elle. The following advice is taken from the web site http://www.womenabusingmen.org/whatcanido.html

A WARNING TO MEN WHO FEEL LIKE THEY ARE BEING ABUSED.

Assess your level of danger
• On a scale of 1 to 10:

(1) Everything is changed now from when things were really good between you. She is very controlling and manipulative toward you and things seem to have taken a negative turn.

(2) She is often angry with you, saying mean and painful things. She denies it, but it seems like she is sneaking around behind you, trying to catch you in lies, waiting for you to fail her.

(3) No matter what you do, if it’s not her idea, it’s wrong and causes a fight. You are seeing how angry she can get, and her reactions seem extreme.

(4) She is behaving badly, perhaps even in public now. She is falsely accusing you of bad behaviour, and some of the accusations are the very things she is actually doing to you.

(5) She is likely to throw things at the wall during a fight and be physically destructive to make her point.

(6) She is likely to throw things at you during a fight, and she has physically struck you at this point.

(7) Even during the cooling off period following a fight, she doesn’t seem to cool off. She can fly back into a rage easily and can’t let it go. Things are getting progressively worse now.

(8) When she is angry, you sleep separately with the door locked, just in case, to avoid a physical ambush while you sleep.

(9) Fights are almost always include physical attacks. She says she wishes you were dead or has threatened to kill you.

(10) She has threatened to kill you before but this time she’s acting differently; strangely quiet, smug or secretive. She may make a strange attempt to reconcile suddenly, but it doesn’t make sense and it doesn’t feel right.

These are examples of how abuse can escalate over time, bearing in mind that every relationship is unique. However, there is danger at the lowest end of the scale, and the ultimate danger at the high end. Both require a serious change of circumstances. Listen to your inner voice – what do your instincts tell you? If you find yourself at the high end of the scale, act quickly to put safety measures in place. Don’t just wait to see how it goes.

Kiss Kill is a digital only book published by Really Blue Books
Amazon http://t.co/h3XUTe5t

What is abuse?

Abuse happens when one person uses different types of abusive behaviour to gain POWER and CONTROL over another.

Abuse can include emotional, mental, verbal, financial, physical, sexual, and social abuse.

Neglect can be abuse too.

Abuse can happen to anyone no matter what their sexual orientation, gender, ethnicity, income, education or nationality.

Behaviour Red Flags for Abuse, taken from http://www.teenrelationships.org/abuse/

1) THREATS of violence or past history of violence

2) JEALOUSY/ HYPERSENSITIVE

3) SCARES you

4) BLAMES others for problems and mistakes

5) ISOLATES you

6) Tries to CONTROL you

7) PRESSURES you for sex or is “playfully” forceful when intimate

8 ) PUT DOWNS

9) Sudden MOOD SWINGS

10) Becomes SERIOUS too quickly

Abuse can effect your feelings of confidence, safety and self-esteem.

Seek help! Contact Crisis Support Services, speak to someone you trust, visit your local doctor.

Note: In the digital book Kiss Kill, Mat survives an abusive relationship with Elle.

Amazon http://t.co/h3XUTe5t
www.reallybluebooks.com

Watch this YouTube. Is this abuse…?

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=scrdqYyXMFO&feature=colike